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A mom with a cup of Joe, hoping to help you as I go….

Grace – it’s such a simple word.  Yet so complicated.  Right?  

The biblical definition of grace is very broad, as is the Merriam-Webster definition. (And remember that, there are biblical and dictionary definitions.)  It is definitely something that I have been given as a gift from God and something that I, in turn, should  give to others. And sometimes it’s a hard pill to swallow, especially when you are hurt, blindsided, and thrust into a situation you didn’t see coming.  

To give Grace to someone is to give them kindness, love, and mercy: in fact, when they don’t deserve it… Unmerited or unwarranted kindness out of a sincere and genuine compassion for others. 

What does the bible say?

In my research on this topic, I read this quote on  “Grace is the opposite of karma, which is all about getting what you deserve. Grace is getting what you don’t deserve.”

Additionally, I also read this excerpt on “It’s normal to feel irritated or upset with people, but God wants us to learn a different way to respond. As you read the following two bible passages, pay attention to the words “bear with.”

As a prisoner for the Lord, then, I urge you to live a life worthy of the calling you have received. Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace. (Ephesians 4:1-3)

Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. (Colossians 3:13)

Responding to others with grace means “bearing with” (or graciously putting up with) people. So, it means acknowledging that everyone has areas of weakness and that we all are works in progress. It means loving people in spite of their personalities, habits, and faults.

Finally, all of you, live in harmony with one another; be sympathetic, love as brothers, be compassionate and humble. (1 Peter 3:8)

So why Grace?

I am facing a situation that came out of left field, that I could otherwise be angry about. But instead, I dried my tears, laced up my boots and pursued forward.  Because of this, copious amounts of grace are being poured out with my desire to give love, mercy and compassion to others. Don’t misunderstand, I have my moments of sheer sadness and confusion.  Moments where I want to say my piece.  I am essentially dealing with a loss – not of a person – but whenever you are dealt a loss, you go through stages of grief.  And so, those sneaky moments will creep in.  But at the end of the day, I desire to let it go and respond with compassion.  I chose to work with versus against. To bear with others, despite the current situation. 

So, how can we show grace to others?  I found this list if you google:  

  1. Words. Be kind and gentle in what you say and how you say it.
  2. Look for Needs and Opportunities. simple everyday kindnesses and actions often help in great ways. 
  3. Let it Go. Letting it go is one of the easiest ways to extend grace to others.
  4. Be There.
  5. Forgive. 
  6. Learn to Ask for Forgiveness. 
  7. Watch the Way You Speak.
  8. Gratitude.

I think that is a very simple, easy to do list and should be on our daily to-do list each day.  It will help us grow and maybe even work together.  

Have you ever had a situation where you had to extend grace?  

In him this wonderful Wednesday,


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